Career Advice – From the Dating Section

Being an avid Men’s Health reader, I’ve nearly devoured my January/February issue with advice for making 2008 a great year. I admit to being a little disappointed with the career section. It offered good advice on ways to improve your job today, how to double your salary in two years, and the eight best days to take off work – but seemed pretty short range in terms of career impact.

On the other hand, there was better long-term advice in the dating section which offered “5 Ways to Meet the Love of Your Life.” So, what’s that got to do with careers? Think networking, and especially consider the time it takes to build significant and meaningful relationships. With some adaptations, here is the advice:

Strike up conversations with 10 strangers a day. According to the article this is a great way to “build up immunity to rejection, … [and] … practice ice breakers and quick responses.” Not up to striking up that many daily conversations with new people? Find ways to be in touch with people in your network, whether it’s a quick e-mail or phone call to let them know you’re thinking of them or wonder how they’re doing. Most people will appreciate the thought.

Carry a neighbor’s bags. People have friends and often want to help others connect. By helping others you can build a reputation as the kind of person others will be more inclined to introduce. Giving to your network is one of the best ways to earn the support that you may one day need.

Pretend you’ve already been introduced. Shift your mindset to having a natural conversation without forcing a particular agenda – like your own career or business needs. By relaxing and being a great listener you’ll lay a better foundation for building the relationship.

Leave the office. Some of the best conversations happen outside of the office, often over a meal or drinks where you can get to know people better and build relationships on both personal and professional levels. Perhaps the title of Keith Ferrazzi’s book says it best: Never Eat Alone.

Don’t interrogate. When meeting new people show genuine interest in them and their perspectives, but don’t ask intrusive questions that can put them on the spot. Instead, ask questions that help you get to know each other better. Remember, this is not about job openings it’s about relationships.